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Furry Friends in the Holiday Mix

Amid the whirlwind of parties, travel, and traditions, it’s easy to overlook those who give us unconditional, year-round love.

Our animal roommates aren’t just cute (and often maniacal) additions to our homes. They aren’t pieces of furniture to be acquired, admired, and then eventually forgotten. They are as essential as electricity and should be valued and appreciated at that level.

This time of year can be chaotic. Loud gatherings, lights, music, and unfamiliar faces can overwhelm animals who thrive on dependable routines, and signs of stress like whining, panting, pacing, or hiding are common during the high-pressure holidays. Even small changes, like rearranging furniture or bringing in a tree (that certainly should have been left planted in nature), can trigger anxiety in these sensitive souls.

Animals crave consistency, so missed walks and irregular feeding times can lead to discomfort, behavioral issues, and even illness. Imagine how disorienting it must feel when your safe space suddenly becomes a bustling hub of strangers and noise during a human soiree that never got your stamp of approval.

Beyond a sense of mutual physical safety, consider the emotional bond we share with our tail-wagging sidekicks. As society becomes more fragmented—with declining fertility rates and shrinking family networks—animals increasingly fill the void of companionship. For those of us who have chosen to detach and withdraw from the population as a whole, the dependency on our four-legged friends is as vital as oxygen.

In moments heavy with memories that can amplify feelings of tension, discouragement, and isolation for many, our animal companions are anchors of tranquility and constant reminders of connection.

When the decorations come down and the guests go home, who will still be there, tail wagging? The furry friend who asks for nothing but gives you everything.

They deliver exponential joy, unwavering loyalty, and a true sense of purpose. This season, let’s return the favor.

Adolescence Interrupted

Cupid’s Broken Bow

bow10_3C474CCA-DD84-22E1-F8B879731EDC7353Another Valentine’s Day arrives to reflect on the intentional decision to avoid that most primal human urge to seek comfort and connection in the arms of a mate. As this calendar holiday disappears, I find myself as happily content in my choreographed singledom as ever. My life is of my own orchestration and the fewer cooks in the kitchen, the better the stew.

Understandably, there are those who are more than satisfied sharing this 80-something-year journey with a fellow traveler. They like to discuss the details of their respective workdays, synchronize their meals, think about what particular shade of green would look best in the den, vacillate about vacation rental properties, and fall asleep in a tangle beneath the muffled sounds of The Tonight Show’s opening monologue.

That may very well be the blueprint to build a rewarding and fulfilling life. But I’m not calling the contractor just yet.

My wiring screams at me to follow that heavy bass rumble of a distant drummer. I’m not going against my instincts or intentionally banishing myself to a fortress of solitude. Removing even the notion of chasing after some unattainable eligible single, trying to prove my merit, and ultimately spending any effort or time rebounding from the imaginary rejection, miscommunication, or misaligned timing seems like a much more rational and logical approach to living.

I haven’t been on a date in 18 months, and I’ll be just as satisfied and untroubled if that number hits 118. I have always found strength, motivation, and productivity from within. If anything, my numerous relationships and dalliances have hindered my growth, stunted my evolution, and routinely stood as roadblocks or speed bumps on the freeway to awakening and self-actualization.

But there’s always a chance I’ll strike up a random conversation with someone who is intelligent, insightful, opinionated, and rips the socks out of my Reefs. Then this diatribe will simply stand as a bullshit rant on a blog about independence, empowerment, and autonomy. Anything’s possible.